hate the sin, love the sinner.
i have so many to tell but i have been staring the screen of my laptop for eleven whole minutes already.
after 58 years. . . 
people grow taller, people move from one school to another or shift from different courses. people get old. they may end up with a job whether it’s what they really like or not. they marry and then some get divorced. some get filthy rich while others get bankrupted. some people will eventually watch their kids on the altar marrying someone. after decades they will be retiring and allow other people to wipe their asses.
time flies and change is inevitable. but does everyone of us really grow up? does everyone of us can admit our mistakes and learn form them? does everyone of us have the courage to erase all the bad habits and practice the good ones? does everyone of us consider ourselves as an imperfect being living in an imperfect life? does everyone of us stay and fight in a very cruel place where a lot of people may ruin us or just run away from them?
until now, there’s still someone who isn’t grown up even though his age is already 50+. fighting over the same problem for so many damn years is pretty tiring.
how would you ask a close-minded grown-up to GROW UP?
i know it is so hard. i may have done a lot of things already but i know there will come a time that something will suddenly pop into his mind that will make him throw away the bad old habits into the hamper. he’s been living here for more than five decades already and yet, nothing changes. but i know that something good will follow. i know it. i don’t have any powers to predict the future but something in me tells me that yes, something good will happen.
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Tags: family, grown-ups, thoughts
gyk (JAYK) is currently residing at angeles city, pampanga here in the philippines, she's also taking up BS Nursing at AUF. she's 18 y/o and doesn't care with her grammar. she is proud to say that she's in a relationship with a wonderful guy. she loves sweets (but who doesn't?) and coffee. internet and watching dvds makes her boredom get out of her way. she is addicted to tv series like gossip girl, OTH and house, m.d. music soothes her. she barely send sms/text messages. she just only text her bf. ;). she loves critics, it's either she'll take it positively or laugh about it. she lives her life the way she wants it to be. for her, nothing beats spending time with her loved ones and lastly, she sees to it that god is always on the top of her list. 
people change.
some are not mature enough
but they carry on with life
you just need to
empower the person
make him aware
of what he does
and let him solve
his own problem
January 12th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
Hmm. Growing up. I lovvve the topic! Seriously, it’s not easy to grow up - especially for a grown-up. Come on, we’re all vain. It’s so damn hard to admit our mistakes so you have to forgive the guy for that. Just my two cents. Besides, it’s new year. Give all the love you can! Hehe.
Payce!
-Spence
January 12th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Some people don’t admit their mistakes by pretending they never happen and I do believe there are people who are just plain shallow.
January 12th, 2008 at 9:25 pm
@xienah:
yeah. you’re right. they still carry on in life, moving but still static.
believe me, i already did that.
January 13th, 2008 at 1:25 am
those are cowards. who run away from the mistakes they did. it’s like their going to be a wanted or anything.
January 13th, 2008 at 1:38 am
@gyk,
Hello. I guess I haven’t grown up yet! Hahaha! I mean that’s how I think and your reply hit almost every part of my damn self. Haha. Anyway it was nice sharin my thoughts, even though they’re totally badass!
Peace! -spence
January 13th, 2008 at 4:54 am
for some people growing up is dumb, but for some growing up is a really good thing..
bleh it’s weird..
i soo lovee the topic tho..
wahihi d2 na tlga ung bgong tambayan ko! dmi kng natu2tunan ehh..
take care!!
January 13th, 2008 at 7:43 am
58 years? Haha :]
Anyways, uhm… talking about growing up…
I think wala pa ko sa stage na yan. LOL. Haha.
Pero about dun sa small wonder na yun..
True. Ang hirap siguro nun. Lalo pag sakin mo sinabi. HAHA!
January 13th, 2008 at 10:41 am
After all change is the only constant thing in this world. Sometimes people change for the better, sometimes for the worse. Sometimes it can help other people, sometimes it can be extremely harmful to others. But we can’t change CHANGE. It’s always there. But about your question, do we really grow up? I think yes we do. But it doesn’t really apply to all, because there are a lot of GROWN-UPS who are more immature than TEENAGERS. Some get stuck to some early stages of their life, and it’s a form of defense mechanism, regression and fixation. That’s a form of defense mechanism wherein maturity is sort of affected.
Me? I don’t think I’m fully grown-up to. I’ve changed for the better and for the worse. I can’t blame anyone though for the changes that I’ve gone through. But I’m thankful for the mistakes that I made because I learned a lot from them. Thankful for the ugly experiences I’ve endured, because I’ve learned a lot from those hideous experiences.
Sometimes, I think about the future and I try to see myself 10 years or 5 years from now, I’d probably be working, and my barkada would be working as well, but it’s really funny because I can’t really imagine us growing up, and being responsible and mature and all. *haha* I don’t know if we’ll ever mature. Just as long as we’re stuck with each other’s childishness I don’t think that we’ll ever grow. But I have no problems with that. It’s fun being childish. *grin*
I hope somehow I made a point there.
January 13th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Err. Regression and Fixation. Those are forms of defense mechanisms. *changed it a lil bit because of the wrong grammar earlier. *hehe**
January 13th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
Yes, yes. In fact, I’m thinking about adding you up in my reads. Gonna go make some friends. haha. Gonna be the nicest guy in town. I’m crazy, alright.
All the best!
-Spence
January 13th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
People have to want to change themselves.
All you can do is say your piece.
If they want to listen, they will.
If they don’t, at least did your part lol
January 14th, 2008 at 2:55 am
don’t expect for every gown ups to change. There are cases where these grown ups need special care or understanding, rather than expecting them to change. If we are able to notice these annoying grown ups, it means that we know how to understand, if we know how to understand, we are the once who needs to adjust..
Nice article.. ^_^
January 15th, 2008 at 5:04 am
This entry made me think. I love how you wrote it.
Growing up is a part of life. though some feel that growing older is somehow related to it. But I think growing up and growing old are two different things. Hehe.
I feel old. Haha ang labo :))
January 15th, 2008 at 1:49 pm